What do you get when you cross a mother-in-law with wedding planning?
While it sounds like the beginning of a bad joke, for one mum the dilemma is all too real and unpleasant.
Having helped her mother-in-law with several aspects of her wedding – and kept costs down in the process – the mum has now found herself snubbed from the nuptials.
Even more gallingly, her husband and young daughters are all part of the wedding party.
“My mother-in-law and I have historically had a slightly tense relationship,” she explains on Mumsnet .
However, she adds how things have, over time, got a lot better between her and her mother-in-law and they “now have a generally good relationship”.
She goes on to explain that while geography means she’s not able to offer practical help with her grandkids, “she is a lovely, thoughtful, interested granny, which I am grateful for.”
The mum even adds that it’s her who keeps in touch with her mother-in-law, as her husband is busy and “a man of few words.”
So, nothing so far to cause any alarm bells to ring.
“Now. My mother-in-law is engaged. Planning wedding. Is not very well off, thus wants me to buy dresses so my two daughters can be bridesmaids.
“I have offered to make some decorations etc to keep cost down. And needs my husband kitted up so he can give her away. Also fine. And needs us all to fly over and find accommodation and hire car.
“We are a bit tight financially too, which my mother-in-law is aware of, but this is a special occasion, so no problem, we’ll find the money.”
Again, so far, so good. Everyone is playing nicely – especially the daughter-in-law, who sounds like a wedding-planning angel – and there’s no reason to think anyone harbours anyone else any ill will.
At least, until the mother-in-law dropped a bombshell.
The mum continues: “[She] has decided to hold ceremony in very small place that can only accommodate the wedding party.
“I.e. she wants me to have invested quite a bit of time, effort and money into her wedding but I have to wait at pub while my husband and daughters, sister-in-law, brother-in-law and nieces etc attend it and then just go to reception.”
Amazingly, this woman’s problem united the forces of the internet.
EVERYONE agreed the mother-in-law was being unreasonable.
As one mum put it: ” You might have mellowed, but your mother-in-law hasn’t.”